“The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to
choose one thought over another.” ~William James
I should eat healthier…
I should work harder…
I should be making more money…
I should manage my time better…
How many times a day do you “should” on yourself?
The fact is, telling yourself that you should be doing more or being more doesn’t actually help you do or be more.
Instead, it just leaves you feeling like where you are or who you are RIGHT NOW is not enough – and that’s an automatic motivation killer when it comes to taking action in any area of your life!
So… are you ready to stop “should-ing” on yourself?
Here are 3 ways that you can cut that out starting today:
STEP #1: Become aware of how often you “should” yourself each day
Get present to how many times a day you tell yourself – either internally or verbally – that you “should” be doing or being something, whether it’s in relation to your work, your family, friendships or health or any other area of your life.
Noticing your “shoulds” as they arise is the first step to shifting them.
STEP #2: Separate other people’s “shoulds” from your own
Each time you notice a “should,” stop and ask yourself… do you REALLY truly believe that you should be doing or being whatever it is that’s come up for you?
Or is this something you think you should do or be in order to fulfill someone else’s expectations of who they think you should be?
If the “should” is arising from other people’s expectations, consider letting it go. You are here to live your life, not the life that someone else thinks that you should be living.
But if the “should” is arising from your own inner desire to take a specific area of your life to the next level, then the next step is…
STEP #3: Get realistic about what you are and aren’t willing to do
If you find that you keep telling yourself “I should be working harder,” but realistically, you know that you’re already 100% maxed out…
By continuing to repeat this “should” to yourself, all you’re doing is making yourself feel bad for doing your best right here and right now. And what’s the point in that?
But if you take a good look at your calendar and you realize that there are pockets of time that you could dedicate to whatever it is that you think you really “should” be working on… consider blocking that time off to work on that task or project.
When you do this, you turn “I should be working harder” into “I am working harder”… and you release yourself from the guilt that comes from not doing something that you legimately feel you should be doing.
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