One evening, you’re out walking the dogs around the block and you find a dusty old-time, oil lamp that someone has set out by the curb. It’s beautiful! And you can’t imagine why they are throwing it away. So you take it home and polish it up… but when you start rubbing it, a genie appears!
The genie says, “I will grant you three wishes. You only have to tell me what you want.”
And you answer, “… er, well… OK, but how do I know what I want?”
Sounds crazy, doesn’t it? But oddly enough, that’s a question I get asked A LOT from my clients and students.
So if you have ever found yourself wondering that, you’re not alone. In this episode, I share my insights and experiences on why so many people have this problem and what you can do about it.
After watching, read my ‘notes’ below the video and then scroll to the bottom of the page to leave a comment.Or, scroll to the bottom of the page to read the transcript.
So the next time you stumble across Aladdin’s Lamp, don’t second-guess yourself!
Don’t try and figure out what the optimum three wishes are, or if you can ‘game the system’ somehow and get more than three wishes – or any of the other mind games that can spin you around until you aren’t sure what you want.
Even if you DON’T find Aladdin’s Lamp, the first step is always to be honest with yourself about what you really want in life – and then OWN the fact that you’re already clear about what it is that you want.
If you already sense what your purpose in life is, don’t psych yourself out.
Don’t settle for less just because other people tell you it’s not possible.
That’s just one more voice telling you to settle.
But really, it’s an excuse for you to put off taking action.
How often that happens! We’re given a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity and, instead of taking that leap and going for it… we hesitate.
Because remember… after all, everyone says it’s not possible.
And, you know… for them, maybe it’s NOT.
It’s not their dream.
Be strong. Honest about what it is that you want. And go for it!
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This video was for me. I do have I don’t know what I want syndrome. I’ve been asking myself if you couldn’t fail what would you do but I keep ordering the cookies when I really wants ark chocolate pretzels! I really love your videos thank you so much!!! Got to keep working on it!
You are totally spot-on with the first part of this video. Great insight. I DO know what I want, I just haven’t been successful manifesting it yet. But the “answer” in the video wasn’t really helpful, as I already do keep going for what I want, however since it still doesn’t show up I still need to choose between the things that HAVE shown up (the “leftovers”) or I have nothing at all while I wait for what I really want (which I may or may not ever be able to make happen!) It’s that old “bird in the hand” deal.
Hi Donna! Thanks for the feedback. My suggestion? Don’t wait. Take action now on whichever option gives you the feeling closest to what you really want. Really dive into that feeling! That will set up a vibration that is more aligned with what you want and allow room to open for it to appear. Usually, it’s the feeling we’re really after rather than a specific thing.
Hi nice lady, this is good video, I think I know what I want and then think its not possible. Then I don’t know for sure what I want. I am so mixed up , was great advice , thank you.
Hi Diane. It’s OK if what you want changes! In fact, you can expect that. Just take advantage of those moments when you get an insight into what you want and take action on it. Taking action will move you forward, but also help define and clarify what you really want.
Hi, i like your message very much. i learned that nothing is impossible, dream large, go forth in life with my dreams & visions. I see what i want & i believe i can reach my goals. I don’t know what can change unless i take my dreams & run with them. Thank u for your message Sharon Blasko;
Wonderful, Sharon! That’s exactly right. Nothing can change unless we take our dreams and run with them. 🙂
This resonated with me so much! I’m ready for a change in my life, wanting something different, but then stuck in the I don’t know what I want phase for more than a year! I kept thinking my ‘what I want’ has to be perfect and forever, instead of what do I want right now and be ok that maybe in 5 years (or 2 or 10) it’s totally different.
EXACTLY, Jennifer! It doesn’t have to be perfect right now. And it’s not forever. Take action today, and let it unfold knowing that it WILL change. You’ll be more able to recognize what you want and it’s easier to re-direct an object in motion so the easiest way to begin is with something small — just to get the ball rolling.
Unfortunately, many folks envision the results that they wish to achieve as opposed to the activity to achieve them. For instance, a man or woman may want to be a millionaire. Or, they may simply wish to achieve X dollars of additional income each month. This then is their “hidden goal”.
Rather, I would suggest that the “activity goal” might be to have ten thousand internet users who like their blog. Then, it moves to twenty-five thousand viewers who sign on. And hopefully, it improves from there. A person may then develop a paying subscription base.
Over time, they will meet their “hidden goal,” one that equates to the results they envisioned that over time derived from the activities to arrive there.
You raise several great points, Bob! First, hardly anyone’s vision will include the “effort” put in. It’s all about the results. Not just with a career, but with anything. And as far as the “want” goes, that’s OK. Just to get an idea of what it is you really want if you take practicality off the table. But that’s why I’m always saying to find your PASSION… because then any effort becomes a joy instead of a drudgery.
The second point you raise is to break down what you want into bite-size chunks. If your big dream is to be President, then yeah, first you may need to graduate high school. But the big dream gives you motivation to keep going.
Sabrina, this is Lola! Love. I met you at Christy Whitman’s QSB in San Diego this past weekend, and you were one of Christy’s fabulous friends. I loved your presentation on how to shoot a video that presents the real, dynamic and professional you. Your video I just watched was awesome. You have such a relaxing and friendly essence on screen that I was receptive and I resonated with every thing that you said. Your message reinforced my belief and the message of Christy’s QSB weekend seminar “Align and then Momentum.” Get still and get clear about what it is that I truly want, once I’m clear about what I want, taking action on what I want becomes organic and authentic. Thank you for the reminder. You are awesome!
Hi Lola! Wasn’t that event wonderful!?! So much passion and talent in one room! I’m thrilled that Christy asked me to come and share with you all. And thank you so much for your kind words! Getting such feedback also helps ME know I’m on the right track. 🙂
Great Stuff Sabrina,
“I’m Lovin It”
Loved this video — hit the nail right on the head — thank you Sabrina!
Thanks for the kind words, David!
Awesome video Sabrina!!
Great content as always.
I have a question though. I already know what I want. I visualize on it everyday. I have affirmations of it all throughout the day. Question is, how would I know if I’ am on the right track achieving what I want?
There are days that I get sidetrack with my goals then I try to get back on track then suddenly get sidetracked again. There is an inkling that I should give up, but not on this dream. Because once I achieve this dream it will be the beginning of something big for me.
I need advice from you and the whole community. I want to know if I’ am on the right track in achieving my goal. I want to know, am I the only one experiencing this?
Thank you and I look forward in everybody’s advice.
Hi Michael! Many people have that question, so thank you for asking!
Only YOU are going to be able to answer if you’re on the right track because you’re the only one that really knows where you want to go. But I have some suggestions for you to help you figure that out…
You KNOW you’re on the right track when things (people, places and situations) pop up that are in alignment with where you want to go. It will FEEL good. The emotional charge will “feel” happy and uplifted.
In fact, I would caution against spending time in doubt or fear that you are NOT on the right track. (I understand this is hard… it’s the reason you have a question like this… There is a part of you that doubts you are moving in the direction you want.)
I suggest shifting to thoughts and feelings of KNOWING that you are on the RIGHT track. We want to emotionally “charge” that thought with the “feelings” of accomplishment. FEEL what it will be like when you have accomplished this goal (feel it in your body, and perhaps even talk about it. Say it out loud. Say things like “I knew this was going to happen! This is amazing –it’s exactly what I want!). Then hold that feeling throughout the day as much as possible. And return to that feeling whenever you are questioning if you are on the right track. Know like you know like you know – and the quantum field (or the universe) has no choice but to reflect it right back to you.
OMG! This is so familiar to me! I’m in that situation right now. It seems something silly, but not knowing what you really want happens quite often. Thanks so much for this video!!
Thanks for sharing that, Andrea! So glad that it helped. 🙂
I liked the restauraant story Sabrina – perfectly captured the dilemma I see I have as a perfectionist! Changed my order to what i want now.
Thanks, Richard. As a fellow perfectionist, I enjoy that one also. 🙂
Thank you , as so many have said you nailed it !
I think I’m deserving one minute and completely the opposite the next.
So glad it resonates with you. We all need a little reminder every now and then. 🙂
Hi sabrina. I liked your diction so clear for a Mexican woman to follow. On the way to be retired, and planning what I want to do in this new stage of my life, you are right ,, body changes like itching you sAid. I had not made the connection of the this change with being sleepy and tired. With your explanation, I really got clarity.!!! I think I am in the right way, before the change happens, I started visualizing how happy and satisfied I will be doing something different. Again you are right, the second steps demands courage, which I prefer to work now that I still have a job, than wait. I decided to start dancing lessons now, to help my body with this change ahead in February.
Blessings and continuous evolution for you and your community in 2017!
Thank you for saying that! It sounds like you’ve found some clarity and you’re on the right track. So happy for you!
Thank you, Sabrina. This serves as a wake-up call for my choices.
Fantastic Bede! A little light shining in our lives every day goes a long way. 🙂
Beautiful job Sabrina! I have a lovely friend who taught me all of this back in 1996 (read The Power of Oneness by Sandra Brossman Bezar). I completely manifested a new life and a new career. Now I am 60 and facing some physical challenges. And, it is time to manifest something new and different. The challenge has been clarifying what it is that I really want.
So, back to the drawing board. It is time to meditate and create some “vision” statements!
Thanks for your bright and refreshing perspective! You are perfectly Right On with what you are communicating!
I am sharing your information with my son and some other dear friends who are ready to manifest something new and beautiful in their lives!
I am looking forward to “finding my passion” once again!
Hi Karyn! Thank you so much for taking a moment to share your heart and journey with us. 🙂 And that book sounds great. I’m going to add it to my ever-growing “to be read” list. Thanks!
Tears are coming. This is very profound. How can I choose from the “next best” things when they aren’t what I really want. Scary to allow myself to listen to what I’m passionate about. A little confused about the fact that spending 4 days each week with my little granddaughter IS really a dream come true, yet there is still a hunger for more. In many ways, I have a dream life, but there needs to be that drive to accomplish or be or do or have MORE. I’m so grateful for this video. Thank you! 🙂
Gratitude tears are the best, aren’t they? 🙂 Thank you so much for sharing your experience with us.
Oh my! What a concept! Just dream it anyway! I just watched Ms. Ledwell’s SSEI webinar & have visualized w/it for 3 consecutive days. How perfectly this fits w/that! Thank you!
Thanks Sabrina, for helping me understand why I’m not getting clarity in understanding what I want in life. Sometimes I do but then I cant seem to understand how that’s going to be possible and then being afraid that if I pursue my dream then I wont have enough time to give attention to my home and my 9 year old daughter and then something bad may happen if I’m not giving the attention and love my daughter needs,like she may get into bad company and start going in the wrong direction, so this stops me right in my tracks and then my mind wont go further to try and understand and figure out clearly what I want. I love my daughter but that itch to do something meaningful with my life is also uncontrollable and I end up feeling frustrated. Please suggest what I can do.
Hi Arati. I understand your frustration. Ultimately, it’s about finding a balance. What I’ve seen work for those in situations like yours in the past is the part time approach. Find something related to your passion and put in a few hours a week at first. It doesn’t have to take a lot of time. Figure out if it’s something that motivates you. That you find satisfaction in. It’s not an all or nothing game. Spend time with your daughter – and make that quality time. Special time. It’s not usually about spending every moment with someone. It’s about making sure in the time you do have to share, that you make them feel heard, and loved and know that you love them. 🙂
that was fantastic! i have not wanted anything for years–translation, Im afraid to even think about what i might want. your restaurant example was perfect.. i thought my choices of what i could have were so unappealing I told myself i didnt want anything… I DO WANT SOMETHING! I want alot! and now im motivated to do the work to get it. THANK YOU Youve got a new follower.
So excited for you! That’s when the true magic starts. You’re not alone. Many people are in the same place. Don’t be afraid to want something. (or a lot 🙂 ) Listen to that! Allow yourself to be guided by it.
Thank you Sabrina for putting this out. I thought there was something amiss with me, for not having a great dream and passion until you came up with the story of the waitress. I will send her on her way and go to a different restaurant!
Now that made me laugh, Margaretha! Thanks for that. 🙂 You send her on her way.
Sabrina, this was wonderful! Thank you! And the Audrey Hepburn quote, don’t think you knew that some very good friends call me Sabrina! (And I love it. Came from Charlie’s Angels, but for me it’s Hepburn!) ❤️✨ And you?
That’s great, Judith. I remember both Sabrinas. Also Sabrina the Teenage Witch (of Archie comics fame). 🙂
Nice uplifting video to see at a very difficult time in my life in the early hours of the morning when I woke and was checking emails.
Thank you so much! I’m so happy to hear you had an uplifting experience from it. 🙂
Excellent way to put it, it really clears and put into perspective just what the answer is. I have struggled this way for quite some time, it’s amazing to realize the answer is really truly doable. This will be a life changer! Thank you so much! I do know and I will not fear, just feel confidence and know I’m on the right track!
Excellent Debra! Don’t fear! Embrace the life changers! 🙂
Dear Sabrina, thank you for this video! I lost my 16 year old chihuahua to cancer 9 months ago and was devistated by it. I am just now getting to where I want another dog in my life. But I am afraid to “go for it” I am surrounded by “what ifs” What if the dog goes potty on my carpet and not the pee pads. What if I am leaving the dog alone too long while i am at work all day. What if this, what if that and then i get nervous and change my mind about the dog. I am in contact with the foster parents of a small rescue dog and supposed to see her (the dog) tomorrow Then I will get a list of all the things i need for her. And think about her, and go get the things i need for her. If I decide I am responsible enough to handle her. I keep changing my mind but i really want to get this dog.I want the love of a furry companion in my life again.Do I just “Go for it” and get this dog?
I am also on medication for depression and anxiety and this does not help.Thank you for letting me say this,sincerely Ilene Kell
I’m so sorry to hear that, Ilene! Grief is always challenging but I always say to listen to your inner guidance… not the fear of what-ifs… but what feelings you feel when you think of each option. And always move toward the best feelings… you can deal with what comes up after it happens. But that way you’ll know you made the highest choice for you at that time. 🙂
This is a very informative video and a great advice to un-learning limits which is what am struggling with. I also struggle being grateful for something that hasn’t happened
Hi Tomakazi! Be patient with yourself and start out with small gratitude for the little things that are happening. And if you need to frame it as gratitude that the energy is moving more and more in that direction (if it hasn’t actually happened yet), then that’s a place to start. 🙂